I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one.
I enjoy being able to keep up with people – and I know that people (at least a couple) people enjoy keeping up with me.
A few months ago, I did a pretty good cleaning up of my Facebook friends. If it was someone who I never interacted with, or they never interacted with me, they got the boot. It actually made me feel a little bit better, as if some weight was lifted off my shoulders.
However, I still feel like there’s a weight called “family”. I’m not talking about all family – just the ones who don’t really care about you. They just are friends with you because they’re “supposed to be”. They comment and like some family’s status updates and photos, yet they don’t ever say or do anything about yours.
How is this acting like family? Some of you may take this is whining or complaining – I guess in some ways it is…
I think it’s absurd to play games. I don’t feel that I should have to continue to bend over backwards, trying to be kind and involved in someone’s life – regardless of who they are, family or not.
Sometimes, I really think that Facebook should have a button such as this one:
And so, the question is: What’s the verdict on deleting those so-called “family” members off of Facebook?
Happy Friday!
I say “cut the fat”
I get it, family is family yada yada…. and I’m all for “family” BUT I’m also all about taking time for the people who do make themselves known in our lives as oppose to “wasting” time on others who do not. Some people are worth it and some aren’t. Harsh? Maybe but it’s reality. In the end do what makes you happy, because you have control over that. You don’t have control in other people and their “games” Obvs this is my opinion with experiences I’ve experienced, but I hope you find a happy medium for you 
P.S. That pic is hilarious!!
Kristine,
You are so right! I try to live by the same mantra “family is family, blah blah blah”, but at the same time it just comes to a point where you’ve got to give it up! It’s not worth it to continue to bend over backwards, try to reach out, and maintain a relationship with someone when they don’t reciprocate – regardless of whether it’s family or not!
It makes me sad, and I don’t need that in my life, so “cut the fat” it is!
Here is my 2 cents: For me, if they aren’t doing any harm {not leaving nasty or passive aggressive comments} I’d just leave them alone and stop interacting with their pages. Why not try to just keep the peace. If they are causing problems, I see not issue with deleting and blocking.
I see your point, Summer! My problem is that I’m an “all or nothing” person – by keeping them around, I know they are still there and aren’t interested in my life, which then makes me very bummed out. I hate myself for being this way! But, I also feel guilty for deleting people, which makes me mad at myself too! It’s a hard decision to make.
I feel the same way about it. I ripped my cousin’s head off (not literally), when i found out while I was substitute teaching, that my Grandma was in the hospital. I shouldn’t have been on my phone, technically and it was high school in the last 5 minutes, but those next 15 minutes, until I could call my Dad, were the longest in my life. I’m also an RN, but I wasn’t doing nursing at the time for personal reasons. She fell and broke her hip, but being a nurse, I know there could have been many things associated with it. But I told her off on FB and we don’t really talk anymore and that is the elephant in the room when we see each other once a year. We are still “friends” but we rarely “like” or comment on each other. And a lot of my long distant cousins, who have accounts but are never online, are weird to be “friends” with. I cut the list every 4 months or so. For people that post WAY too much, I just “hide” them, so they show up on my list, but I never see their feeds. Then they are outta sight/outta mind! That’s what works for me
I like the hiding their feeds suggestion too! Outta sight/outta mind is right sometimes
I know EXACTLY what you mean with this! In fact, I’ve been thinking about dropping several family members (cousins) because we NEVER interact. I was so happy a year or two ago when they started friending me because I haven’t talked to them in years. But now we are friends but never comment or interact. I know I shouldn’t put it all on them because I should reach out and comment too, but it just feels like the times I have, they’ve never reciprocated.